The Halunke and I both knew this day would come eventually: The company I worked for in the United States closed down - my visa is linked to my employment there. You do the maths.
Since the United States does not allow their estimated 30 million gay and lesbian citizens to sponsor a foreign partner for a green card - like any straight person could - and since I can not legally work at another company with my non-transferable visa, this means I currently have no other option but to leave the country. Patrick had to make the difficult choice to either break up with me or leave everything he knows and owns behind and take the next big step with me. Luckily, and very courageously, he has opted for the latter.
We have a plan somewhat in place, but it's going to take some effort to put it all in motion. Of the few choices we had, only one really makes sense for a variety of reasons right now and let's just say: Patrick and I will be checking if John Paul and Craig take roommates ;-)!
I guess you know where this is going...
The GAYS of DAYTIME is going on an indefinite hiatus in its current form, as I will simply not have the time for it. I've done the whole move across the ocean thing before and trust me - you cherish every minute you have to yourself.
What this means is that the message board will CONTINUE AS IS. For the most up to date clips, turn there. The blog will continue in some form, but I'm still working out the details on how this will go. I'll probably drop in every once in a while and look after the place, but I'm handing over the keys to someone else. She'll hopefully be able to make her debut on TGoDT - The Blog shortly after having been a tremendous help over on the message board.
This is certainly not how I wanted to ring in 2009, but that's life.
Words can not describe how blessed I've been over the last year with all you wonderful folks and how much fun this ride has been so far.
Every American fan of this blog - pass the message on: Congress and President-elect Obama need to end one of the gravest injustices in the current immigration system ASAP. The law text for that, the so- called UNITING AMERICAN FAMILIES ACT has been ready for years. All it needs is for someone who talks a big game about change to actually DO something and pass it. It was fairly easy to make a decision on 714 billion of our tax payer Dollars in a couple of days, it should be just as easy to grant a few folks the chance to pursue happiness their way. UAFA would relieve roughly 40,000 bi-national couples in the United States from eventually having to do what Patrick and I will be doing now.
Keep watching and have yourselves an awesome New Year!
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Aw... Wolfi... ((hugs))
As the saying goes, when one door closes, another one opens.
I'm glad you and Patrick will be staying together. Best wishes to the both of you for 2009 and beyond.
Thank you for starting this wonderful blog and forum.
P.S. (And I'm sure you've already considered this...) There's always Canada - Vancouver's not too far away from San Francisco and has generally mild weather. Plus, you can get (and stay) married legally!
Wolfi....wish you the best for 2009! I'm sorry to hear that you and Patrick have to move to be together...but like RJ above said... when one door close, another opens ;-)
Hope to hear from you anywhere around the world...
Greetings from Berlin, Tom
Take care. Viel Glück.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I sincerily hope everything works out for you and the halunke, and that we can see you again soon. Good luck out there!
Wow, those are really sad news. I mean both. I just wanted to tell you that we enjoyed the time here and loved your blog. I also wish you all the best for your future and I truly hope that Patrick and you will find a solution to stay together as they say “happily ever after”.
Warm greetings from all girls from DeRo FanFic Club.
Genius
i totally understand what you, two, are going through. when i was in Atlanta 6 years ago, i also had the same problem and founded immigration equality in Atlanta. But my visa run out and I moved to Canada...All is well now. Best wishes for both of you and things WILL turn up!!
This is such a terrible situation and both of you seem to handle it in such a classy and graceful way. I admire that strength. I wish you luck!
I'm quite new here, but have enjoyed every minute on that site. So, thank you very much for all the great hours I've spent here.
I wish you all the best wherever you are going.
I really admire your strength and courage.
Have a great new start of your life and the new year.
Best wishes
smilla
It makes me so sad that you both have to go through this! However, I admire the strength and grace you both have in handling being dealt such a wretched hand.
Having said that, as others have pointed out, every ending is a new beginning and I'm big on new beginnings.
It may not have been they way you wanted to start 2009, but I'm hoping that 2009 is the most amazing year of your lives.
{{hugs}}
A few words:
You did a great work:The BEST gay blog!
And for all this...
Thanks,Merci,Danke,Gracias!!!!!
Good luck,my friend and...
Arrivederci!
Hallo Wolfi,
das sind keine schöne Nachrichten, Ich wünsche Euch aber dennoch alles Gute, Glück und Gesundheit für 2009 und einen gelungenen Start auf der grünen Insel
Danke für den wundervollen Blog..
Wow. This situation bites - but I admire your strength. I, myself, would probably kick and scream like a toddler. If only this country would just "snap out of it" and make equality a top priority.
I will truly miss your daily blog updates - and entertaining commentary! Best wishes to you and Patrick in 2009!
Wow, what a terrible thing to happen so close to Christmas :( I wish you and your halunke all the best. Thank you for all the great times on this blog.
So sorry to hear that Wolfi!
It feels so awfully wrong, but like you said: that's life... I wish you, from the bottom of my heart, all the luck in the world and hope you and Patrick will find a great new place together in a new country. The choices you make show that you love each other very much and nobody can take that away from you... xx
Thank you so much for starting all this: the blog and the forum. Without you (and the people helping you) I would have missed out on meeting so many wonderful people. A big hug for that!
O, and I know for sure your blog will be in the right hands to keep it alive. She is almost as much TGoDT as you... ;)
Lots of love,
Sjanet
Wow, that is some major suck to be dealing with! You seem to be handling it great, and I'm thrilled to bits that your Halunke has made the choice to come with you, but you'll be dearly missed. This blog was one of the best things I discovered this year. (And I'm glad you're leaving it in good hands - if they're the hands I think they are, they'll do a great job of it :))
The best of luck to you both - I hope things will go as smoothly for you as these things ever do (I've done the haul across the world myself, so I know how mad it can get) and that we'll see you around again eventually. Sending lots of good vibes!
Ah shit! I mean Scheisse! Well, I hope this new start means great adventure, new discoveries and a GREAT 2009 and beyond!
Hope to see you around on the WWW though!
Hugs, j.U.d.E.
Hi..
.. du wirst es kaum glauben, aber es gibt auch immer noch ein paar deutsche Mitleser bzw. "Mitrater" hier, die trotz gnadenlos schlechtem Englisch zumindest versuchen, auf dem laufenden zu bleiben, was TGoDT angeht.
Soweit es mein sclechtes Englisch zulässt, habe ich verstanden, dass du/ihr aus Amerika wegziehen müsst - es hat aber leider nicht gereicht um zu verstehen, wie es mit diesem Blog weitergeht. Wärst du so lieb, auch uns Englischpfeifen - oder zmindest mir, sollte ich die einzige sein - eine kleine kurze verständliche Mitteilung zu geben? Danke schon mal im voraus und ganz viel Glück bei was immer in eurem neuen Lebensabschnitt so auf euch zukommt!
Guys, you made my life a little brighter. I'll miss you. Good luck with whatever life brings you.
Take care. I hope everything works out for the best, and you can come back happier than ever.
I'm coming to visit!
Oh! I had no idea you were going through all that. It's just not fair.
I second what everybody else says and I'm also happy you and Patrick are staying together. Good luck with everything!
PS: if you're going to London and need to find a place, I can help. Or rather, my sis has lived for a few months there and knows a few building admins so she may be able to help. That is, if you trust a (sort of) random stranger? I don't know if you remember me, but I'm the one you and Bonobochick helped with that famous bill the Berlinese Public transport officers gave to my sister? Anyway, you should have my email addy. Email me if you need some help
I am crying very hard on the inside. My best wishes to you. And thank you for introducing me to some of the best TV available the whole world over.
This is sickening.
We must seriously stand up, be counted and stop this crap from happening.
My best wishes to you both.
wolfi...
sorry you will be backing off, but i choose to believe that for one thing, you will need to come here to keep up as much as the rest of us, and the other, life happens. we have to be willing to let go of the rhinestones to have open hands for the real jewels that will come our way. my life is anything but what i had planed for, but i wouldn't trade a minute of it, even the really hard parts, because it took all of it to make me the man i am today. i am the sum of my experience and what my mind and heart choose to make of it, and so are you. savor it all.
Everyone's already said what I'd like to say ... I'll add an extra good luck to you both, and I hope you'll manage to pop in now and then to let us know how you're going.
All the best
from Aussie
@EVERYONE:
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Patrick and I are truly overwhelmed by all your best wishes and encouragement. I hope these next weeks will fly by fast (well, I have a feeling they will)...
@JMJ:
Auch allen Freunden von TGoDT in Deutschland ein herzliches Dankeschoen. Du lagst uebrigens gold-richtig: Mein Freund und ich (das ich Deutscher bin, ist ja kein Geheimnis, er ist Amerikaner), muessen das Land verlassen, um zusammenbleiben zu koennen. So ein Umzug in ein anderes Land nimmt ein bisschen Zeit in Anspruch. TGoDT-Blog wird in der Zeit von der wunderbaren Bonobochick gepflegt.
So sorry that you are being forced to leave but I'm happy that you have the silver lining of knowing that you and Patrick will be together.
Thank you SO much for introducing me to tv shows and characters that I didn't even know existed. It always made my day a little brighter to check your page for the latest updates. In my book, your blog wins the Best Gay Blog award hands down.
I wish you all the best, you will be sorely missed!
You are going to be terribly missed ... I'm so sad that you have to uproot your lives like this, but I am heartened that you have the support of a loving partner and hopes of a new world ahead of you. I wish you both all the best in settling into your new home. And hopefully we'll see you back before too long? *fingers crossed*
*Sob* I love this site!! I'll miss your wonderful commentaries!
God! The U.S. sucks sometimes... It makes me sad to have 1/2 U.S. citizenship... Best of luck to you and Patrick! Come to Canada! We would love to have you both. Missisauga, Ontario is growing by leaps and bounds and would welcome your contributions greatly...aye?
Robin Dunbar-Anderson *hugs*
As someone who is in the same predicament as you I know it sucks. Mine is a little worse since my home country prosecutes me for being gay. It is supposed to take me 4 to 6 years to get a green card and if for some reason my employer fires me before that I have no choice but to go to my home country
I'm so sorry you both have to go through this. I shake my tiny fist for you and all those in similar situations. It's incredibly unfair.
But thank you for everything, so far, and all the best for you and yours in 2009, wherever you're heading. I hope you manage to find yourselves a welcoming new home.
Thank you so much for this Blog and the Message Board!!!!
I found you in late Spring and signed on in June. I have had so much joy reading comments/commentary and leaving comments of my own.
I am really sorry that this situation has befallen you and your partner and pray that you land on your feet and wish you the best outcome in every area!!!
Take Care!!
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